Celebrate the difference between a wedding and a marriage!
You are engaged! Congratulations! You want to get married in your dream destination overseas, so why does your wedding planner insist on calling it a wedding ceremony and not a marriage? Well they are not being picky, a wedding and a marriage are actually two different things!
A marriage is a legal contract
A marriage is a legal contract, historically, it was a record that could be used to prove amongst other things, legitimacy and inheritance. Nowadays, many couples are not religious or are of mixed religions so contracting their marriage by the minister of one particular faith is not an option. In this instance, they may turn to a registrar to marry them. The registrar will usually also offer a non-religious wedding ceremony but this may fall far short of the ceremony of your dreams, and most certainly will not be on a palm tree lined Mediterranean or Caribbean beach! So what are your options? Interestingly in some countries, including Scotland, Humanism is recognised as a faith and so a Humanist wedding ceremony is also recognised as legal marriage and can include personalised vows and rituals. But for many newly engaged couples the prospect of a romantic wedding ceremony in warm sunshine, on white sand or surrounded by olive groves is far more appealing.
The wedding ceremony is where the memories are made
These days, it is becoming more common to go through the quick legalities of registering your marriage in your own country then concentrating on creating the wedding ceremony of your dreams, at your dream destination, with an independent celebrant who will weave into your unique ceremony, your values, your love story, your own vows and whatever rituals are important to you. Without question, the wedding ceremony is where the memories are made!
Have your wedding cake and eat it!
So yes, you can have your wedding cake and eat it too! You can combine a legal marriage in your own country, then pull out the stops and have that full-blown destination wedding with an awesome, totally personalised celebrant-led wedding ceremony with hand-fasting, heartfelt vows and amazing romantic photos of you walking into the sunset. So really, there is a difference between a marriage and a wedding and if I were you, I would take full advantage and totally celebrate and take advantage of the difference!
Bride Icon would like to say thank you to Debbie Skyrme who is a former UK Deputy Superintendent Registrar. As a wedding celebrant in Southern Spain Debbie crafts bespoke, unique ceremonies for each couple in dream Andalusian destinations.
Photos by the kind permission of the photographers.
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Jason Rodgers – Instagram: jasonrogers_photographer